Learning to Cope

Davon Daniels Professor Moss English 1500 11/20/12 Draft 2 Learning to Cope Just about everybody has lost that one individual that they truly care about and they realize that everything can change without a moment's notice. Passing is a sudden event that could once in a while have dependable mental and physical impacts on individuals. In the make light of the Aisle by Patricia Leigh Gaborik a little youngster Katie and her family are figuring out how to adapt to the passing of their cherished one.People handle the demise of a friend or family member in various manners, and Katie attempts to deal with the demise of her dad by clutching all the great recollections she had of him. Not exclusively is Katie profoundly influenced by their lost yet the remainder of her family is figuring out how to adapt to their lost by taking on various jobs when he pasts. The dad is an emblematic character in this play since he is the stone of their family, since he is solid and trustworthy. Each charact er in the play encounters various clashes and changes in their relationship in the wake of losing the individual they all cherished the most.One struggle experienced in the play is the connection among Katie and her mom when the passing of Katie’s father. Katie and her mom don’t have the best relationship and now and again it appears that Katie wishes that she would’ve been in the auto collision with her dad. This is a contention since it appears as though Katie may censure her mom for the demise of her dad for causing him to go out while she remained at home and dealt with Katie. This causes a ton of strain among Katie and her mom since she additionally feels as if the demise of her dad may likewise be her fault.At the finish of the play Katie and her mom have all the earmarks of being nearer to one another and her mom even apologizes for the things she’s done before and discusses Katie’s father. This is significant in light of the fact that follo wing quite a while of not so much talking about him it shows that their mom is simply beginning to adapt to his demise. Her mom states in the play â€Å"I realize you generally figured I did everything wrong† (pg. 251). This shows despite the fact that she knows they didn’t have the best relationship in the past that she’s attempting to be there for her and just needs the best for her.Katie and her sibling Joe has a run of the mill sibling and sister relationship they contend a great deal and yet they care for one another. Now and again Joe even calls his sister Katie an imp yet offers to get things done for her. The demise of their dad changed their relationship on the grounds that Joe is by all accounts the individual that presently holds the family together. This seems, by all accounts, to be Joe’s method of adapting to his father’s passing since he feels as though he must be solid for both Katie and his mom and assume the new job of the man of the house. Joe: â€Å"What d’ya think?!Mom! The music’s began! You need to get to your seat! Aw, mother. I advised you not to state that stuff. You said it, didn’t you? You’re crying! Please! Glad. Upbeat! It is safe to say that you are glad? It's just plain obvious, she’s upbeat. Everybody’s cheerful. It’s a cheerful day. Let’s go! Let’s go! This statement is an extraordinary case of how Joe keeps everything together as everybody starts to breakdown; he speaks to the new stone and quality of their family. Katie’s relationship with her dad is the most significant in light of the fact that out of everybody in their family she had the nearest relationship with him.A significant clash in the story is that Katie after these previous years despite everything can deal with her father’s demise. On her big day as she’s getting ready to stroll down the passageway she in dreams herself having a discussion wit h her dad and thinking back pretty much all the great recollections they shared. Katie says â€Å"I don’t comprehend you’re expected to be the one I can check on† (pg. 247). This statement shows that despite the fact that Katie may not so much get over the passing of her dad yet she is gradually arriving at where she is figuring out how to manage it.At the finish of the play the discussion among Katie and her mom causes her grapple with the demise of her dad since that was first time that they have really had a discussion about him. Somebody who hasn’t lost somebody they truly care about may not know how it feels sincerely to beat the demise of somebody they love yet passing is difficult to get over and not every person gets over it rapidly. The general subject of these contentions is that everybody figures out how to adapt to the passing of somebody in their own specific manner and at their own time. For Katie the wedding gives her beginning a fresh star t for her as well as for her family also.